The need to feel better, do things different, and be healed of a diseased mind takes a lot of work, time and energy. In order for change to happen one needs to be open, ready and willing to do the work it takes to have different experiences. Below you will see some of the tools I am currently using to accomplish goals and live an authentic life.
First, write down a list of all the things you would like to improve, accomplish, or start practicing. This will be your goal list. My list consisted of the following:
Change my thought patterns
Stop procrastinating
Be solution focused
Learn to be an effective communicator
Exercise
Travel
These are the "big picture" goals. This is a list you can always add to as you find new things you would like to change or accomplish.
When you have a list going number each goal from 1-4. 1 being the most important to work on and 4 being the least important. For example:
Change my thought patterns (1)
Stop procrastinating (1)
Be solution focused (1)
Learn to be an effective communicator (1)
Exercise (2)
Travel (4)
From this point I like to choose 2-3 things that are 1's and 2 things that are 2-4's. This helps to balance things out a little. Challenging work should be balanced with pleasurable work. Once you pick 4-6 things you want to work on for the week, then you need to organize it. You will organize your goals by writing each one down and listing how can you accomplish each goal . For example:
If you are unsure of how you will accomplish a goal, write down "research it" and make a list of all your findings.
From here I like to use an agenda to keep myself organized and to make sure I accomplish or worked on each goal. Pick one or a few strategies to accomplish each goal. Here's an example of my agenda:
9am - write negative thoughts throughout the day*
10am - class
11am - class
12pm - make a list of boundary statements* read them over and practice throughout the day
1pm - exercise*
2pm - write negative thoughts*
3pm - make calls
4pm -
5pm - dinner
6pm -
7pm - write positives to the negatives* and read them over
8pm - read self-help book*
It's important to make yours tackle your goals in a realistic manner. Making them unrealistic will set you back and result in not following through. Also, making them to easy can also slow your progression down.
Also keep in mind that some goals you might have to carry forward for days, weeks or months depending on how much work has to be done. As long as you stick to it, it will improve and you will see and feel changes.
Give it a shot and see how it works for you!
First, write down a list of all the things you would like to improve, accomplish, or start practicing. This will be your goal list. My list consisted of the following:
Change my thought patterns
Stop procrastinating
Be solution focused
Learn to be an effective communicator
Exercise
Travel
These are the "big picture" goals. This is a list you can always add to as you find new things you would like to change or accomplish.
When you have a list going number each goal from 1-4. 1 being the most important to work on and 4 being the least important. For example:
Change my thought patterns (1)
Stop procrastinating (1)
Be solution focused (1)
Learn to be an effective communicator (1)
Exercise (2)
Travel (4)
From this point I like to choose 2-3 things that are 1's and 2 things that are 2-4's. This helps to balance things out a little. Challenging work should be balanced with pleasurable work. Once you pick 4-6 things you want to work on for the week, then you need to organize it. You will organize your goals by writing each one down and listing how can you accomplish each goal . For example:
- Change my thought patterns
- how? Write down negative thoughts as much as possible and write a positive to each negative. Then go over all the positives daily.
If you are unsure of how you will accomplish a goal, write down "research it" and make a list of all your findings.
From here I like to use an agenda to keep myself organized and to make sure I accomplish or worked on each goal. Pick one or a few strategies to accomplish each goal. Here's an example of my agenda:
9am - write negative thoughts throughout the day*
10am - class
11am - class
12pm - make a list of boundary statements* read them over and practice throughout the day
1pm - exercise*
2pm - write negative thoughts*
3pm - make calls
4pm -
5pm - dinner
6pm -
7pm - write positives to the negatives* and read them over
8pm - read self-help book*
It's important to make yours tackle your goals in a realistic manner. Making them unrealistic will set you back and result in not following through. Also, making them to easy can also slow your progression down.
Also keep in mind that some goals you might have to carry forward for days, weeks or months depending on how much work has to be done. As long as you stick to it, it will improve and you will see and feel changes.
Give it a shot and see how it works for you!
